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Anger is a wonderful emotion, because it lets you know, in no uncertain terms, what is important to you. So when you are angry, think back carefully to what triggered that emotion. What was it that is so valuable to you that it riles your emotions to have it challenged or lost?

Ask yourself, what need is that person fulfilling by those actions?

To be good at something requires practice, and to practice requires opportunities,  and as there are many little opportunities those are the ones to practice upon.

Useless education just fills up your brain with useless stuff. When you have a goal then the knowledge and skills you need become obvious and your learning becomes more interesting and therefore easier to learn.

Being human is using one’s inborn language ability to share information which helps us to think and predict future events.

We must begin every conversation with an empathetic understanding of where the other person is at this moment.

Every strong emotion imposes itself on our thinking. We can not think when we are in the grip of any emotion. Emotions always trump rational thoughts.

Anger is a punitive emotion seeking a weaker target and its vehemence deterred only by fear of being overpowered by a responding force.

Advice is given as if we were in that other person’s place, but they are not us and they couldn’t respond as we would respond, even if they wanted to.

Giving of a kindness and receiving of a kindness creates trust and makes improving relationships possible.

People are always comparing other people to some inner ideal, but we can choose to simply accept them as they are, facing their problems with the resources which they have available to them.

The common phrase “no but” is a denial of the other person. The comic’s approach of “yes and” affirms the other person, improves the communication and makes creative new ideas possible.

“Yes and” statements make both parties in a conversation into winners.

Attempting to change another person’s thoughts or behaviors is certain to cause conflict.

Giving attention to other people encourages them to give attention to you and both people gain and feel better.

We are all part of something vastly bigger than us, and within this vastness we can find areas where we can benefit both parties by our communication.

Any criticism should be avoided, but when it can’t be avoided it is best to sandwich it between agreeable statements.

When people are angry with you it means they are not empathizing with your needs, and you must present yourself in terms which they can understand.

You are in partial command of yourself and you choose how you respond to all situations, the good and the bad, the beautiful and the ugly.

Truth is spoken of as an absolute, and yet it reeks of arbitrary sub-parts, and the best we can hope for is truthfulness from an honest person. TRUTH is a fantasy and perhaps there is only one big truth, and that is that the universe exists, but even that is challenged.

To communicate positively with people you must be talking about balancing your  needs with theirs.

Children have some natural instinct toward giving kindness to other people, and it can be cultivated by showing them how to share things, which will help the other person.

Normal people want to help other people.

My goal is to help all humanity to live more robust lives, this includes people I can never know personally.

The goal of wisdom is to find contentment in one’s world and to help others find contentment in theirs.

A contented person has abandoned judgment and criticism and sheds what is needed onto all he meets.