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A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Suicide

15 Thursday Oct 2015

Posted by probaway in survival

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Avoiding suicide, Epigrams on suicide, suicide, Suicide is ugly, Surviving a friends suicide

A Dictionary of New Epigrams

Suicide

1. Suicide is never a good option if you can do one more thing to help anyone.

2. Suicide may end one’s pain, or it may not, but it certainly ends pleasure.

3. When you still can help other people, helping their suicide would be betraying them.

4. Suicide is a way of telling your friends you don’t value their well-being.

5. A curse of being conscious of one’s mortality is the realization that you can kill yourself and that continuing to suffer pain is a voluntary choice. That’s why you need a purpose beyond your personal needs to keep living.

6.Being alive and conscious of the Universe and its wonders is the greatest gift that physical reality can give, and suicide is throwing your greatest gift back into the meaningless void.

7. The discoveries of humanity are given to you for your use by the hundred billion other people who have gone before you, and that’s what you throw away with suicide.

8.Committing suicide violates every one of the basic rules of life — show up, pay attention, do your best, let it go, and repeat.

9. Suicide may end your problems, but it creates problems for others and for me.

10. I feel sad when a friend commits suicide, then annoyed with them for being so stupid that they couldn’t solve their problems,

11. then blind that I didn’t see their needs even if they didn’t express them,
then guilty that I didn’t help them.

12. Then, unhappy with the thought that others I know are probably desperate, and I don’t see it.

13. Then wondering, “will writing these epigrams help or hinder whoever encounters them?”

14. Some will say of the successful suicide, “Good riddance. I regret having met you. You cloud my thoughts and tear my vision.”

15. If you are compelled to commit suicide, be kind to your friends by going on an extended vacation to an exotic place, and not making any new friends there, and then just quietly drift away.

16. Avoid a dramatic public departure because it hurts most of those people who loved you most.

17. Nonexistence is just that nothing.

18. To choose nothing is to choose nothing.

19. Suicide is proving to other people that your life was worthless, at least to you.

20. The vast majority of the Universe is lifeless matter, and it took billions of years of stuff in the right environments to create life and to create you and your consciousness.

21. If you commit suicide, you are just getting out of the way, so microbes digesting your body can bring life and consciousness to a higher level. Of course, that will take another billion years, but consciousness will arise again.

22. Of course, the Beatles were right when they sang, “All you need is love.” But they missed the critical point; what you really need to do is to give love consistently to children.

23. Suicide is a very personal thing, especially when it’s done right.

24. Suicide is a futile attempt to escape from pain. The last days of life are still filled with pain.

25. What if you have a life after death, and you go around with a bullet in your head—forever. That’s got to be annoying.

26. I’m considering avoiding people with suicidal tendencies if I can’t help them.

27. It’s considered a bad thing to kill another human being, but to kill one’s self is to kill everyone and everything; it’s killing all life, it’s killing the whole Universe.

28. “To be or not to be” isn’t a question; it’s a decision.

29. Suicide isn’t a philosophical problem; it’s a practical problem.

30. If you think life is meaningless and without satisfaction, consider the limitations on meaning and satisfaction when you’re dead.

31. Probably most suicides are cries for help, but when successful, they choose, in a convincing way, to prevent anyone from helping them.

32. Not a single person of the hundred billion humans who have died has convincingly returned and hung around for another decade for people to admire them.

33. Life’s a grand play, and if your part is to be a suicide, give it your best and get off the stage.


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People with high Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) test scores of five or more are 30 times as likely to commit suicide as those with ACE test scores of 1 or less.

Of course LOVE means protecting children from Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE):

  1. Physical abuse
  2. Sexual abuse
  3. Emotional abuse
  4. Physical neglect
  5. Emotional neglect
  6. Mother treated violently
  7. Household substance abuse
  8. Household mental illness
  9. Parental separation or divorce
  10. Incarcerated household member

and replacing them with Positive Childhood Experiences (PCE):

  1. Physical security
  2. Sexual protection
  3. Emotional rewards for good actions
  4. Physical care for all physical needs
  5. Emotional support during difficulties
  6. Mother always received kindness and respect
  7. Household examples of responsible use
  8. Household responsibility for each other
  9. Parental mutual support of one another
  10. Responsibility for public welfare

People raised with very low ACE scores and very high PCE scores should rarely have sufficient reason to commit suicide, and probably only then to save several of their friends’ or relatives’ lives.

 

Alcohol, life expectancy and the good life.

14 Wednesday Oct 2015

Posted by probaway in Contentment

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Alcohol, Alcohol for pain creates pain., Alcoholics Anonymous, Drink for Pleasure and never for pain., Never more and never less., One Drink Per Day

Abraham Lincoln wrote a fine essay on Alcoholism back in 1842. He said, “Those who have suffered by intemperance personally, and have reformed, are the most powerful and efficient instruments to push the reformation to ultimate success.” That reminded me of my conclusion on the ACE versus PCE test, “Of course many of the most successful people score poorly on these quizzes, and they may be the most valuable friends of all, because they learned how to cope with the most difficult of life’s problems.” A disaster for me was that the very person I had rewritten the ACE-PCE test for committed suicide within a week. I am now very cautious when encountering people who relate to their problems in too positive a way. I told a popular joke yesterday about a depressed alcoholic stuck in a deep hole. A priest went by and prayed for him, and then went away. A psychiatrist came by and heard his story, and counseled him, and went away too. Several other professional healers came by, did their thing, and went away. Then a recovered alcoholic came by and jumped into the pit with the depressed man. The drunk said, “Why did you do that, now we’re both stuck down here.” The recovered alcoholic said, “Yes, but I know how to get out.” It’s probably a standard Alcoholics Anonymous joke.

I remember a Lincoln quote that I haven’t found that goes something like this, Lincoln, while in his presidency, was requested by some anti-alcohol legislators for support fighting the evils of alcohol, to which Lincoln said something like this, “Alcohol is a very good thing when used properly, but when used improperly it’s a very bad thing. How do we keep the good and get rid of the bad?”

There is now tested research that has shown that one or two drinks per day increases life expectancy over zero drinks or five drinks. This is probably impossible for previous alcoholics to apply, but for young normal healthy people the slogan “Drink for Pleasure not for Pain,” is a good guide. Also, how about, drink one serving of alcohol per day, for life expectancy improvement, two at a social event for reducing inhibitions, and five for emotional pain reduction. One drink a day increases life expectancy, two at a party lowers inhibitions and helps yourself and others have a more interesting encounter, five lowers emotional pain but interferes with solving the problems causing the pain. For a short if rigid slogan, “One drink per day, never more and never less.”

Some research seems to suggest: 1. a highly varied diet of vegetables increases life expectancy; 2. a greater variety of microbiomes is associated with a more varied diet; 3. a low average body temperature increases life expectancy.

I have been developing my slogan idea “Drink for pleasure not for pain” based on George Valliant’s Harvard Grant Study and the ACE test results.

“One drink per day, never more and never less.”

Jim Seyfert

Jim Seyfert was always a super cheerful companion.

Just as I finished this post I was informed that Jim Seyfert just committed suicide. This is a man I spoke to almost every Saturday morning for the last couple of years. He was a cheerful companion and never seemed in the slightest depressed. A close friend of his from this same group got killed on a bicycle a couple of months ago. He had a broken neck resulting in a future as a quadriplegic, and he chose to die, which you can do here in Oregon. With Jim’s death that’s three friends in six months that chose to die. It’s strange because life in Bend, Oregon, is near idyllic. Perhaps they know that, and as there is no better place to go, they choose to check out.

 

 

Most people’s first response to new things is suspicion and fear.

05 Monday Oct 2015

Posted by probaway in psychology, survival

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ACE test, ACE verses PCE, fear, First response to stimuli, PCE test, Suspicion, Why people are afraid

At yesterday’s meeting on tranquility, during the discussion portion, one person mentioned that scientific research using MRI had shown that most people’s first thoughts about new stimuli were suspicion and fear. I didn’t respond to that idea, because I didn’t have any information on the subject. However, I was thinking that it was probably true because the background religion of the majority of people has fear-driven stories based on punishment for being in some outside social group. A second idea for why people fear novelty is based on the fact that most Americans have poor Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) test scores, and few have Positive Childhood Experiences (PCE). If a person’s life experience is that even things known from experience are painful, then an unknown new experience must be even worse, and that would be horrible.

From Wikipedia ACE test — “About 67% of individuals reported at least one of the following Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE); and 87% of individuals who reported one ACE reported at least one additional ACE.[6] The prevalence of emotional abuse was 10.6%, physical abuse 28.3%, sexual abuse 20.7%, emotional neglect 14.8%, physical neglect 9.9%, mother treated violently 12.7%, household substance abuse 26.9%, household mental illness 19.4%, parental separation or divorce 23.3%, incarcerated household member 4.7%.”

I created a flip of the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) test scores, and named it Positive Childhood Experiences (PCE).

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences (ACE versus PCE). Clickable image.

As mentioned in the Wikipedia quote above the chart, 67% have some poor childhood experiences and of those 87% had more than one category of bad experiences; thus the majority of people, some 57% have 2 or more categories of adverse childhood experiences. I suspected that is the reason the MRI tests mentioned in the first sentence of this post were accurate, and that is why

Most people’s first response to new stimuli is suspicion and fear.

 

How can we express our love?

29 Tuesday Sep 2015

Posted by probaway in diary

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Creating an open channel, Creating calm communication, Expressing love, Human calming signals

Some say that giving attention and love to everyone can be done by smiling at them in a spontaneous appreciative way. I opine that everyone is capable of receiving love if it’s given in the right way. But what is the way of giving love so that it can be received? If the other person is in a desperate state of mind they may not be capable of receiving a positive input, because their mind is filled with suspicion and hate, and a smile is seen as a deception.

For anyone to receive love they must be in a safe state of mind, so our problem is to assure them that we mean them no harm. The standard human way to do this is with a smile, but even Shakespeare, hundreds of years ago, warned of smiling men, and of smiling Greeks bearing gifts. A suspicious person may be unwilling to receive any form of love, because their experience has been that letting down their guard pulls suffering into being.

Perhaps there is something to be learned from dogs and their natural “calming signals” that they send to each other. There may be similar graphics showing human calming signals used as guides for actors, but the dog signals are not overlain with human language and culture and are easier to understand. There is good reason to be suspicious of humans, because there is a huge media industry filled with thousands of actors whose occupation is to convincingly portray emotions to fit a pre-planned manipulation of the other person’s emotions.

Doggie Language - calming signals

Source – http://joyfordogs.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/body-language-Boogie.jpg

How can we know when human calming signals would be legitimate? The human actor’s signals could be practiced to include: a relaxed looking away, after making a brief eye contact to establish communication channel; blinking and moving back slightly; dropping chin slightly with a slight smile; moving slightly to the side while talking and then gently back toward the opposite side. Perhaps there is overlap with dog calming behaviors such as — licking the air, turning the head or body away, muzzle nudging, yawning to the side, pawing the ground, narrow eyes in simulated sleepiness, tactile contact on the side, play position with front elbows on the ground and butt high, approaching in a curve toward tail, sniffing butt, relaxed slow moving, sitting down and looking away, moving between, bumping, shaking off water twisting movement.

The idea here is to state objectively some subjectively mediated physical actions that are indicators of legitimate inner emotions. If we can display these toward people who have difficulties in being friendly it might be possible to expose to them that they might be attracted to, that would be helpful to them. But it is important to give people their private space, and often people will give clear signals that they want to be left alone. Some people will say, “Let them frog kick in their own pond slime.” I like to get at the root causes of human suffering and cut the cycle short, and that is best done by convincing young adults to avoid inflicting Adverse Childhood Experiences and promote Positive Childhood Experiences.

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences (ACE versus PCE)

Give the next generation a positive base to build their lives upon.

Condensed thoughts Probaway July 2015

31 Friday Jul 2015

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Condensed thoughts July 2015

Condensed thoughts Probaway

January 2015

01 January 2015 – Probaway – Person of the year 2015 – Peter Higgs and Alan Guth – They discovered particles that could be found anywhere in the Universe, that are fundamental to our existence.

02 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 23 – If you are distracted quickly recognize that you have lost that moment for maintaining tranquility.

03 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Kindness – The greatest acts of wisdom are simple acts of kindness.

04 January 2015 – Progress review for Probaway and modern society – This blog began with a list of Life Hacks for creating a better world with good habits.

05 January 2015 – Imagine There’s No Heaven by Mitchell Stephens – book review – If God is incomprehensible to man, it would seem rational never to think of Him at all.

06 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 24 – The world is constantly making demands on us to do things that take us away from our personal duty to ourselves.

07 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Energy – A person without a present purpose has no energy and soon falls into despondency.

08 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 25 – Sometimes a friend gets a perk you would prefer had come to you, but that decision was some other person’s choice.

09 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Reliability – No one is reliable who is expected to act against their own self-interest.

10 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 26 – We can choose how we respond to inevitable events.

11 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Tranquility – Being courageous, constructive, and kind are the fruits of tranquility.

12 January 2015 – The Wisdom of Donkeys – by Andy Merrifield – review – My aim has been to clarify how the goal of tranquility, so prized by the Stoics, might be generated in our modern people.

13 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 27 – Our world does not exist intending for us to miss out on opportunities.

14 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 28 – To maintain control of your inner self is your personal responsibility.

15 January 2015 – Easy diet, easier diet, easiest diet. – Leave something on my plate for Grandma!

16 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Freedom – Without free speech there is not even the possibility of any of the other rights.

17 January 2015 – The Marshmallow Test by Walter Mischel – Book review – I think, therefore I can change what I am.

18 January 2015 – You can’t cure stupid, especially Detroit stupid, stupid, foolishness. – You can’t cure stupid, but sometimes even fools can cure themselves with forethought.

19 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 29 – To become a Stoic is easy to do once you are willing to abandon the wonderful things society pretends are available to you.

20 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Desire – The sage’s desire is to help another being find their way.

21 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 30 – Be content with the past, because there is nothing you can do about it.

22 January 2015 – The Bonobo and the Atheist by Frans DeWaal – Book review – Why not assume that our humanity, including the self-control needed for a livable society, is built into us?

23 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 31 – It is important to have a proper piety toward society’s gods, its ideas of justice, and whatever it is that created our universe.

24 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 32 – Remember the man who was violently cast out of the Delphi Oracle for asking if he should defend his brother, who was about to be murdered.

25 January 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #10 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – When training your self in the use of your secret source,
hold close to your essence and thus avoid dispersal.

26 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Ethics – Being ethical means doing the right thing at the right time for the right reasons.

27 January 2015 – Risk of death measured by CriSTAL, Glasgow Coma Scale, RTS and START – What are the criteria that guide our medical people in triage decisions?

28 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 33 – Right now give some thought as to how you will behave when alone, and how you will behave towards others when in public.

29 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 34 – How you will feel a year from now about having accepted a pleasure, and how you will feel about having rejected it.

30 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 35 – If you can’t do the job correctly don’t start it, but if it is within your abilities, do a competent job, and ignore those who disparage you.

31 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 36 – Demonstrate your appreciation to your host by behaving appropriately, which usually means modestly.

Condensed thoughts Probaway February 2015

01 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 37 – When you choose to do some job that is beyond your ability, it is likely that you will fail, so do jobs where you will be successful.

02 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 38 – Never through lack of caution hurt your ruling principle of carefully seeking tranquility and contentment.

03 February 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 03 – The effort is now being shifted to tracking down every case of Ebola, and every contact made by each sick person.

04 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 39 – Pause for a moment and consider the endless new troubles you will acquire when putting on another man’s shoes.

05 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 40 – In Roman times girls attempted to get married quickly by making themselves as attractive as possible to marriageable men.

06 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 41 – It demonstrates a lack of judgment to spend excessive time exercising, eating, drinking, and copulating.

07 February 2015 – Saint Augustine’s analysis of lying – Even truth thought false by the sayer is a lie.

08 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 42 – When a man treats you badly or speaks badly of you, remember that he is coming from his own experiences.

09 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 43 – Choose the view that he is your friend and you have always solved your differences. Then approach the problem from a place of common interest.

10 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 44 – A man standing before you is neither his property nor his style; nor are you.

11 February 2015 – Will computer minds find an inherent meaning to the Universe? – Are the evolutionary goals of a Universal superintelligence even conceivable to humans?

12 February 2015 – Convert all of the Universe’s silicon into intelligent material. – To survive and reproduce oneself is the goal of an evolving silicon living system.

13 February 2015 – Vint Cerf discusses 1000 year storage of digital information – Digital vellum will make our current digital information available to people a thousand years in the future.

14 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 45 – If you don’t know why a person did a particular act, you don’t know if he did it well or poorly.

15 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 46 – Instead of showing off your knowledge, demonstrate it in your actions.

16 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 47 – Do things to maintain your own self-control over your body, but don’t tell anyone you are doing these things. They are for you.

17 February 2015 – St. Augustine’s Confessions – But, where does all of his abundance come from? It comes from Jesus’ idea that you should “help others live and live more abundantly.”

18 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 48 – A Stoic expects all benefits and harms to come from within himself.

19 February 2015 – Attention with kindness yields the best love. – Even arguing and fighting is a form of personal acknowledgment and validation.

20 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 49 – Nothing of value comes to me until I actually attempt to use the information that I acquire.

21February 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Love – Love is an expression in actions of the respect for another’s intentions.

22 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 50 – Your self-chosen rules’ function is to train you to personally gain control of yourself and your habits.

23 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 51 – Prepare now, because every moment of your life is a now, and it will be met with all that you have to offer.

24 February 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Lies – To lie to another convincingly trains one’s own self to lie to oneself, and thus to voluntarily ruin one’s own character.

25 February 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #11 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Clay may be molded into a cup, yet – From the void within arises the utility of the cup.

26 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 52 – We must never lie or everything becomes meaningless.

27 February 2015 – The Sixth Extinction by Elizabeth Kolbert – book review – The impressive thing about humanity creating this world-wide sixth extinction is that “we are doing it without even trying.”

28 February 2015 – My controversial jelly bean diet kills desire to continue eating. – The three jelly bean diet has been the easiest diet I’ve created, so far.

Condensed thoughts Probaway March 2015

01 March 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 53 – I choose to influence only that which is within my ability, and be content with the rest.

02 March 2015 – How to save the frogs of the world. – The freezing of frogs is a method for saving the frogs and probably some other species from extinction.

03 March 2015 – I am aware. – I enjoy the awareness that I am aware of my awareness and of its rareness.

04 March 2015 – Speak in complete sentences. – I have a habit of speaking too briefly and expecting whomever it is that is listening to fill in the missing words.

05 March 2015 – When an unknown opportunity knocks at least open the door. – The world is still filled with many potential unknowns that are easily discovered.

06 March 2015 – How to love one’s self. – Cultivate the habit of being loving to oneself through kind actions toward other people, because it generates the habit of being loving and kind to oneself.

07 March 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 07 March 2015 – If not treated the death rate from Ebola is greater than ninety percent.

08 March 2015 – How to drink beverages for greater pleasure. – Why beer tastes better from a glass than a bottle is because it flows over more of the tongue.

09 March 2015 – Living with a Wild God by Barbara Ehrenreich – review – Revealing a life of pain doesn’t help others find a path to tranquility.

10 March 2015 – Intelligence coupled with free will is not to be trusted. – People want security and a person exercising free will is unpredictable.

11 March 2015 – Superintelligence – Paths, Dangers, Strategies by Nick Bostrom – review – Superintelligence is still in its infancy; what will its childhood be like?

12 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Gratitude – A demonstration of gratitude is a sure sign that a person is awake.

13 March 2015 – How Google Works by Eric Schmidt & J. Rosenberg – review – This is a great book for the one-in-a-million person applying to Google, but for most other general readers it will be a put-down.

14 March 2015 – Confirmation bias and be careful what you wish for. – Samumpsickle said, “Yep. That I can do, but is that what you really want?”

15 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Truth – Truth is often symmetrical with other truths, but also sometimes with falsehoods.

16 March 2015 – Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences – comments – I would like to meet people who have low ACE and high PCE scores.

17 March 2015 – Index of EarthArk category’s posts – A list of 115 EarthArk posts from the most recent to oldest.

18 March 2015 – Give thanks to Gravity. – It would be an orientating thing for us to go to our ultimate source of being and give thanks to The Four Fundamental Forces of Nature, for being so consistent and dependable.

19 March 2015 – Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences – This new chart adds numbers to each test’s items, one through ten. It also reformats the page so the two tests align each item for item.

20 March 015 – A photograph of a rainbow, moon and rainy street. – It was an overly abstract story for a camera club that talks a lot about cropping and blurry backgrounds.

21 March 2015 – Potential enemies of the EarthArk project – These are the profit-minded people who want to bring all life forms under their personal control, using DNA manipulation techniques.

22 March 2015 – Humanity must survive its dangerous moments to continue existing. – You and humanity must survive every deadly instant before your offspring can exist.

23 March 2015 – Do a quicker and easier EarthArk before it’s too late. – Start your personal EarthArk today, by putting seeds in a bucket.

24 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Evil – Evil is in the motivations of humans who willfully choose to injure people or other living things for personal pleasure.

25 March 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #12 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – The artists’ colorful works make your eyes too sensitive; the musicians’ melodic notes make your ears too delicate; the gourmets’ succulent flavors make your tongue too refined.

26 March 2015 – Dome Argus in Antarctica is the coldest place on Earth. – The EarthArks can save millions of species, but they must be in place to do it.

27 March 2015 – Antarctica – A year on ice – movie by Anthony Powell – review – A year on ice will open your spirit to understand more soulfully where you now live.

28 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Doubt – Doubt is a momentary condition between the choice of options that can lead to depression when a decision can not be made.

29 March 2015 – I live within inertia and so do you. – A person 80 years old would have experienced 2,524,608,000 seconds of potential free will decision making.

30 March 2015 – A useful upgrade in percent % notation system. – If society learns to replace the % sign with p/00 we will make the meaning of the numbers more obvious.

31 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Death – Living is the astonishing thing in the Universe, as non-life is the default condition.

Condensed thoughts Probaway April 2015

01 April 2015 – Is suicide a free-will option, or is it a destiny? – Is it the champions of other people’s needs who are the most in need of help?

02 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Pain – Avoid pain by doing the right things at the right times.

03 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Wisdom – True wisdom is invisible because it brings tranquility, contentment and a quiet life.

04 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Contentment – It feels better to enjoy what you have than suffer over what you want.

05 April 2015 – The exit strategy of Kelsey Collins – I speak to the living – do little kind acts frequently.

06 April 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 06 April 2015 – Develop a weakened virus that can be sprayed into bat colonies.

07 April 2015 – A pleasantly tranquil walk in downtown Bend, Oregon – If you can look forward to helping someone live a better life you are needed and wanted.

08 April 2015 – Overdevelopment, Overpopulation, Overshoot (OVER) – review – The only thing that consistently reduces population is lack of food, and starving is a terrible way to die.

09 April 2015 – What is the question we should be asking about our life? – I wasn’t, I am, I won’t be, and I am content with all of those?

10 April 2015 – Our habits are magnetically attached to confirmation bias. – What feels right at the moment is dependent on what happens to attract our attention at the moment.

11 April 2015 – The Unpersuadables by Will Storr – review – We are all unpersuadables – and once you realize that, you can be more comfortable with yourself and kinder to all those other foolish people.

12 April 2015 – My sad change of opinion – A government of the entrenched rich, by the entrenched rich, and for the entrenched rich that shall never ever perish from the earth.

13 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Success – The easiest road to personal success is found in being kind to others.

14 April 2015 – What do you want? – I came to my wish: “To let the world progress as it was going to do without my suggestions or my garden gnome’s help.”

15 April 2015 – In the shadows of unknowns – Use falsifiability as the starting point, as opposed to using it as an ending point proof of the not quite rightness of a theory.

16 April 2015 – Do what you want to do … but … – Do what you want to do, but give others the opportunity live healthier lives because of your actions.

17 April 2015 – Categories are only in our heads. – People believe they can claim superiority over others, because they exist on a higher plane, a more significant reality.

18 April 2015 – Be nicer. – It is not the helping of people that is desired, but their perception of being cared for personally.

19 April 2015 – How can we find truth? – The pirates who can somehow become legitimate will eventually triumph.

20 April 2015 – Your world might expand like mine just did. – The people are coherent wholes, and will explain themselves well, if given a chance.

21 April 2015 – I have opinions based on observations. What are yours based on? – Part of the fair play of conversation is to admit you are wrong when you are proven wrong.

22 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Grief – Grief is like the Laocoon snake, slowly squeezing the living breath out of now.

23 April 2015 – The good, the bad and the ugly of Ebola – To the research people weaponizing disease I would say – Remember that we and you too are part of humanity.

24 April 2015 – How do we identify wisdom? – Wisdom is the ability to find the exact thing that will make a difference, and the ability to propagate it virally.

25 April 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #13 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Honors and dishonors will disturb your equanimity; and when you think highly of yourself, your body will be filled with suffering.

26 April 2015 – The good and bad of prayer, and finding a better way. – When we pray for what is, and what will be, and what has been, our prayers will always be answered.

27 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 0 – Let me expose my confirmation biases, as best I can, to clear the way forward as much as I am able.

28 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 1 – The world is filled with many problems and many paths, and we have need for help along a proper path.

29 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 2 – Asking an undefinable entity to help one with human problems introduces a huge gap into reason and responsibility.

30 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 3 – To seek to live in a world of fantasy is what we are specifically guided away from.

Condensed thoughts Probaway May 2015

01 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Goals – If you don’t do something you won’t get anywhere, and you are eternally stuck where you are.

02 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs– 4 – I ask of my inmost being to validate life’s potential force.

03 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 5 – Let me embrace the past as it was, the present as it is, and the future as it will be.

04 May 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 04 May 2015 – During an epidemic most people would prefer to wear a health status badge than to die of an avoidable disease.

05 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 6 – The only way to avoid rewards is for the helping action to be done in secret, and therefore let my every kindness go unobserved.

06 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Resilience – Resilience is the conviction that the goal is worth the effort.

07 May 2015 – Should women be drafted into military service? – Drafting all people, men and women, into an army sets up a whole nation to be brutal and become ugly and miserable.

08 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 7 – I pray that at every moment as it occurs I am ready to participate. I am ready … now!

09 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Ignorance – One who refuses to observe reality will always be ignorant, and one who bases his actions on ignorance will always behave foolishly.

10 May 2015 – It’s time to say hello to our new reality. – Let us do what we can to bring a humane morality to this astonishing new world.

11 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Imagination – Until worldly facts convince the imagination of their functionality, imagination based on random experience will control our actions.

12 May 2015 – Thoughts condensed from the popular world – #93. Commit to your task and finish it with enthusiasm.

13 May 2015 – Yes, I’m on a spiritual path! – Our writing group chose to write for ten minutes about the word “path”. Click to read my little 149 word essay.

14 May 2015 – How to improve your ACE test score. – It’s impossible to change the past, but you can change your relationship to the past by retelling it in a helpful way.

15 May 2015 – You can’t have the impossible. – “You can’t have the impossible” sounds like an obvious falsehood, but it’s an obvious truth.

16 May 2015 – Prayers for the new millennium – Humanity needs a goal to have a purpose, to feel comfortable with ourselves, within our vastly expanded universe.

17 May 2015 – A typical Sunday for me – I left intellectual Berkeley, after 50 years, with some trepidation for the small resort town of Bend, Oregon. It’s different but wonderful.

18 May 2015 – A prayer for tranquility and contentment – Treat other people in a way that will maximize their tranquility within themselves and support their contentment with the world around them.

19 May 2015 – A quiet day, but memorable for me – It’s quite a pleasure having people respond positively to something I’ve done, because it is such a rare event.

20 May 2015 – How can I promote tranquility fairly? – People are who they are and creating tranquility in them is aided by accepting them as they are, a vast array of self-promoting habits.

21 May 2015 – Fear can be a good emotion or very bad. – Fear can drive you to be sensible. Don’t take unnecessary risks, and don’t ignore real ones.

22 May 2015 – Doing something worthwhile makes you feel good. – Do something worthwhile for other people, not something destructive and hurtful, or simply a waste of personal and public resources.

23 May 2015 – How to make a vertical take-off and fast horizontal flight copterplane. – The copterplane would go much faster and further than a helicopter, but others are pursuing it now.

24 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Judgment – A thoughtful man thinks about what he knows and figures things out from observed facts.

25 May 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #14 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Before something exists, you may draw it into existence; and
after it exists, you may draw it into non-existence.

26 May 2015 – Migraine prodrome visual pattern variations on colored backgrounds – I did an experiment where smooth colored areas matched the color of my scotoma, and it nearly vanished, but when shifting my gaze to a visually complex area it returned.

27 May 2015 – 10 things you know to be true – Within seconds everyone was bent over their notepads, writing furiously. When done we each read our efforts. Wow.

28 May 2015 –When shouldn’t we help other people? – Don’t help others if it hurts anyone; thus don’t help if it hurts you, don’t help if it hurts them, and don’t help if it hurts the health of society.

29 May 2015 – How can we identify actionable information? – Actionable information is that which enhances your overall survival and heritability.

30 May 2015 – We can’t predict the future very well and therefore …   – Have the reserves ready so you can act quickly and appropriately to rare problems.

31 May 2015 – What are the questions you should be asking today? – How can I learn to ask better questions?

Condensed thoughts Probaway June 2015

01 June 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Desire – To make your future life tranquil and contented intentionally choose to do things that will help you to be tranquil and contented in this moment.

02 June 2015 – Choose reality over fantasy and your life improves. – Change the way you see things to conform to reality, and your reality improves.

03 June 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 03 June 2015 – It might be possible to catch Ebola years later when a refugia organ site, like an eye, is ruptured, and the virus enters the blood system or infects a caregiver.

04 June 2015 – Discovering blank spots in our human reality – Infinitely close to everything in the Universe will be unknowable to us forever, but we can choose to enjoy what we do perceive.

05 June 2015 – Zebrafish, CRISPR, Plague Inc., and computer-generated DNA – Several of my Probaway Person of the Year choices get blended into a single scientific experiment.

06 June 2015 – Existentialism and reality are avoided by most humans. – Existential reality is too demanding for most humans so they choose to become willing slaves to an ideology.

07 June 2015 – Learning from a moment of forethought, a moment of action, and a moment of meditation. – An upgrade to a quiet mind, and a generalized quest for a better relationship with the world in general and ourselves in particular.

08 June 2015 – Thomas E. Lovejoy of World Wildlife Fund & Founder of PBS series Nature – My thought after the lecture was, to save humanity create ways for people to make money taking CO2 and other problems out of the environment.

09 June 2015 – Preparing for problem solving with pleasure – When we know we need to be flexible in our approach to a problem we should intentionally get ourselves into a pleasurable state of mind.

09 June 2015 – A powerful variation on quiet meditation – This loud variation on the usual quiet meditation reveals unexpected opportunities.

10 June 2015 – How can I learn to avoid fear and pain and be effective? – Be more effective by intentionally making your personal presentations less fearful and more joyful and positive.

11 June 2015 – Is ultimate truth subjective? – Truth in all of its guises is always an agreed upon approximation.

12 June 2015 – Watch for kindness and you will see it. – Asking for people to be kind, humorous and wise seems attainable to everyone.

13 June 2015 – It is easy to live better by avoiding anxiety and pain – When you have eliminated the sources of your anxiety you will decrease your experiences of anxiety.

14 June 2015 – Who decides what is true? – We decide at every instant what is true, who we are and who we will become, so choose wisely my friendly reader.

15 June 2015 – Do we have a duty to live or to die? – Our duty is not to be an unwelcome burden to ourselves or others.

16 June 2015 – What is beauty to humans? – Some of us were feeling the Universal as beauty, some were thinking of it as truth, and all of us were enjoying it immensely.

17 June 2015 – The good and bad of hitting age 80 – Old age isn’t for sissies, it’s for flexible, fun-loving, personal-purpose finding people.

18 June 2015 – Training the behavior of organisms like dogs – Here are some working suggestions for helping you and your dog into a cooperative relationship.

19 June 2015 – What is our duty to the Universe as intelligent conscious beings? – We are creating sililife (silicon life) but once it is established it can take whatever time is necessary, even billions of years, to do its evolutionary thing.

20 June 2015 – Hillary Clinton can become President of the United States – Creating impossible dreams brings people to failure, disillusionment, grief, despondency, and early death.

21 June 2015 – Curious conversations in Bend, Oregon – Curious conversations would be a true reality show about ordinary people’s personal stories.

22 June 2015 – Notes for creating a tranquil life with better habits – When some action doesn’t seem right, that is the moment to choose a better habit.

23 June 2015 – How can we thrive in our uncertain world? – To help others to live within their reality is something I can do, and so can you.

24 June 2015 – Show up, pay attention, give it your best, and let it go – Repeat – means frequently returning from one’s own inner thoughts to the external thoughts of the group.

25 June 2015 –The Tao Teh Ching – #15 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – It is impossible to predict sages’ obscure behavior, but
their actions always seem simple and obvious.

26 June 2015 – If you are going to do something well, do it every day. – If you are going to do something well, do it every day, but choose it wisely so it will be helpful to everyone.

27 June 2015 – Charles LeRoy Scamahorn USAF 1960 – I got my wings, but a year later both the Air Force and I decided I could serve our country better as a civilian and we parted ways amiably.

28 June 2015 – When do people ignore you? – People only see the pretty surface and only taste the sugar coating.

29 June 2015 – A meditation for stoics. – A tranquility and contentment meditation for everyone, even atheists and stoics.

30 June 2015 – Only when we look does reality stare us eye to eye – Some quatrains from The Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam with some stoic comments.

30 June 2015 – Condensed thoughts compilation from Probaway’s 2015 blog – This list also appears in the list at the top of probaway.wordpress.com as 2015.

Condensed thoughts Probaway July 2015

01 July 2015 – The Boy Scout helping the old lady across the street problem. – Those old women made me feel like I should be in training to be a “nice” teenager.

02 July 2015 – Venus and Jupiter are in conjunction and … ? – A Google search didn’t turn up much that was unique for the year 2015.

03 July 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Work – If what you are doing is not beneficial to you and someone else, stop doing it and find something to do that is beneficial.

04 July 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 04 July 2015 – In twenty years human diseases of the world may be gone, and most animal ones too.

05 July 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Suffering – The more clearly you see the world as it is, as opposed to the way you wish it to be, the less disillusionment you will be forced to suffer.

06 July 2015 – Projecting the convergence of unrelated current technologies – What will you value in five years?

07 July 2015 – Making sense of your normal body temperature – Remember 98.6°F for adults and one degree less for young and old.

08 July 2015 – A meditation for stoics, update #1. – A tranquility and contentment meditation gets you ready for action.

09 July 2015 – The EarthArk Project is still the right way to save species – List of EarthArk posts from the most recent to oldest

10 July 2015 – A meditation for stoics, update #2 – a challenge. – The goal is to learn to calm oneself and then act promptly with appropriate actions.

11 July 2015 – A coming reprieve from famines caused by population explosion. – The problems are growing but our ability to cope with them is growing too.

12 July 2015 – Human wants are not infinite. – Choose to limit infinite desires for fantasies to easily attained tranquility for what exists.

13 July 2015 – People respond positively to the tranquility – contentment meditation – “I choose to feel tranquil about my past.”

14 July 2015 – Disney’s Pluto can be seen in Pluto the dwarf planet. – I don’t know what the visual equivalant to earworms is but eyeworms seems appropriate.

14 July 2015 – People responded positively to the 3rd tranquility –  contentment meditation – When challenged we can enter a tranquil state and react with intelligent wisdom.

15 July 2015 – Update on the unknown unknowns of Doomsday – Always conduct yourself in such a way that a major change won’t take you out.

16 July 2015 – Whom can you trust? – You can trust people whose self-interest is compatible with yours, and you can’t trust people whose self-interest is hurt in any way by helping you.

17 July 2015 – Evolution of Information Scale (EVOS) – Life is a step in the process of organizing information.

18 July 2015 – How bad are the 21st-century military disasters? – As horrible as the world presently is, it is only 1/30 as bad as the 20th century.

19 July 2015 – Revisiting the Pain Scale in search of comfort. – Raise children in an environment supportive of their explorations and comforting of their pains.

20 July 2015 – The lesson of Ebola is to prepare an instant information kit. – Broadcast specific information on how to prevent a viral disease from spreading by demonstrating how to separate the virus sources from people.

21 July 2015 – Fully experience your present moment. – Before you begin any action commit yourself to an enthusiastic demeanor.

22 July 2015 – Road mine blast deflector – Steel wraparound skis on military vehicles would deflect road mines’ deadly power.

23 July 2015 – The 4th tranquility – contentment meditation – It might be appropriate to not suggest any words of meditation whatsoever for this exercise, not even the idea that previously we had done tranquility and contentment.

24 July 2015 – I will never leave you! – I assure you, that it’s quite an experience having a powerful shaman look you directly in the eye, and say, “I will never leave you!”

25 July 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #16 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Reach into your perfect void, and Attain the essence of tranquility.

25 July 2015 – Roget’s Thesaurus of Words for Intellectuals – Review – Following in the footsteps of Ambrose Bierce’s “The Devil’s Dictionary“, or alternatively, they are incredibly stuck-up snoots.

26 July 2015 – What’s happening to my personal communications? – Being eighty is wonderfully liberating, if one has cultivated comfortable habits.

27 July 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Silence – A wise man often sits silently and learns a great deal of wisdom from an arrant fool.

28 July 2015 – What is marriage for? – The goal of marriage is to raise a child, a perfect rose to your ideal self.

29 July 2015 – Love is real when it is mirrored back to its giver. – Give your love in a way that can be mirrored instantly.

30 July 2015 – If this is my life, what should I be doing? – All of these companions of my life tell me what I should be doing, and I do what works for me.

31 July 2015 – I never encountered a living thing I didn’t like. – Everything needs help to survive and they must get it from friends.

31 July 2015 – Condensed thoughts compilation from Probaway’s 2015 blog – This list also appears in the list at the top of probaway.wordpress.com as 2015.

Revisiting the Pain Scale in search of comfort.

19 Sunday Jul 2015

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Over the years I have posted many articles on pain, and I created the Pain Scale below to clarify what pain is, how to measure it, how to control it, and how to predict its probable future duration. Now I want to consider hidden pain: how to identify it, and how to prevent much of it.

Probaway Pain Scale

Pain Scale – For measuring intensity of human pain – click to enlarge and make printable

Previous posts:

Measuring Pain in old people.
Measuring pain in old dying people
Pain Scale for Intensity Measurement and Management
The measured pain level varies with the injury type
The Pain Scale for measuring suffering and alleviation of suffering.

Pain injury muscles

Pain injury to muscles and an estimate of the recovery time.

Risk of death measured by CriSTAL, Glasgow Coma Scale, RTS and START
Swearing eases pain, but causes other problems.

How can you know when someone is in trouble and refuses to acknowledge it? The Pain Charts above would give some idea of when an intervention would be called for, even if the person insisted they were okay. For example, any person who has experienced a physical or emotional PAINS~11 for one minute – Horrible; it hurts so much I have trouble walking – will according to the Recovery Time Chart still be suffering uncomfortable PAINS~5 a year later. These may be below awareness much of the time, but in a quiet time they will assert themselves into consciousness.
How to improve your ACE test score.

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Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences chart

When we look further into a suffering person’s past, all the way to their childhood, it will become obvious that if the Recovery Time Chart is meaningful, then a single severe beating as a child will have noticeable effects thirty years later. Adverse childhoods probably don’t have a single beating but many, and thus the recovery would be even longer, and perhaps impossible without a deep retraining of the multitudes of automatic habits. Also, habits that form later in life are grounded in the already existing ones, and if these are formed within a world of pain they will be responding with pain-avoidance behaviors rather than love-seeking ones. Once again –

Raise children in an environment supportive of their explorations and comforting of their pains.

Condensed thoughts compilation from Probaway’s 2015 blog

30 Tuesday Jun 2015

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Condensed thoughts Probaway

January 2015

01 January 2015 – Probaway – Person of the year 2015 – Peter Higgs and Alan Guth – They discovered particles that could be found anywhere in the Universe, that are fundamental to our existence.

02 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 23 – If you are distracted quickly recognize that you have lost that moment for maintaining tranquility.

03 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Kindness – The greatest acts of wisdom are simple acts of kindness.

04 January 2015 – Progress review for Probaway and modern society – This blog began with a list of Life Hacks for creating a better world with good habits.

05 January 2015 – Imagine There’s No Heaven by Mitchell Stephens – book review – If God is incomprehensible to man, it would seem rational never to think of Him at all.

06 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 24 – The world is constantly making demands on us to do things that take us away from our personal duty to ourselves.

07 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Energy – A person without a present purpose has no energy and soon falls into despondency.

08 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 25 – Sometimes a friend gets a perk you would prefer had come to you, but that decision was some other person’s choice.

09 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Reliability – No one is reliable who is expected to act against their own self-interest.

10 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 26 – We can choose how we respond to inevitable events.

11 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Tranquility – Being courageous, constructive, and kind are the fruits of tranquility.

12 January 2015 – The Wisdom of Donkeys – by Andy Merrifield – review – My aim has been to clarify how the goal of tranquility, so prized by the Stoics, might be generated in our modern people.

13 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 27 – Our world does not exist intending for us to miss out on opportunities.

14 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 28 – To maintain control of your inner self is your personal responsibility.

15 January 2015 – Easy diet, easier diet, easiest diet. – Leave something on my plate for Grandma!

16 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Freedom – Without free speech there is not even the possibility of any of the other rights.

17 January 2015 – The Marshmallow Test by Walter Mischel – Book review – I think, therefore I can change what I am.

18 January 2015 – You can’t cure stupid, especially Detroit stupid, stupid, foolishness. – You can’t cure stupid, but sometimes even fools can cure themselves with forethought.

19 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 29 – To become a Stoic is easy to do once you are willing to abandon the wonderful things society pretends are available to you.

20 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Desire – The sage’s desire is to help another being find their way.

21 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 30 – Be content with the past, because there is nothing you can do about it.

22 January 2015 – The Bonobo and the Atheist by Frans DeWaal – Book review – Why not assume that our humanity, including the self-control needed for a livable society, is built into us?

23 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 31 – It is important to have a proper piety toward society’s gods, its ideas of justice, and whatever it is that created our universe.

24 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 32 – Remember the man who was violently cast out of the Delphi Oracle for asking if he should defend his brother, who was about to be murdered.

25 January 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #10 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – When training your self in the use of your secret source,
hold close to your essence and thus avoid dispersal.

26 January 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Ethics – Being ethical means doing the right thing at the right time for the right reasons.

27 January 2015 – Risk of death measured by CriSTAL, Glasgow Coma Scale, RTS and START – What are the criteria that guide our medical people in triage decisions?

28 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 33 – Right now give some thought as to how you will behave when alone, and how you will behave towards others when in public.

29 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 34 – How you will feel a year from now about having accepted a pleasure, and how you will feel about having rejected it.

30 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 35 – If you can’t do the job correctly don’t start it, but if it is within your abilities, do a competent job, and ignore those who disparage you.

31 January 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 36 – Demonstrate your appreciation to your host by behaving appropriately, which usually means modestly.

Condensed thoughts Probaway February 2015

01 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 37 – When you choose to do some job that is beyond your ability, it is likely that you will fail, so do jobs where you will be successful.

02 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 38 – Never through lack of caution hurt your ruling principle of carefully seeking tranquility and contentment.

03 February 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 03 – The effort is now being shifted to tracking down every case of Ebola, and every contact made by each sick person.

04 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 39 – Pause for a moment and consider the endless new troubles you will acquire when putting on another man’s shoes.

05 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 40 – In Roman times girls attempted to get married quickly by making themselves as attractive as possible to marriageable men.

06 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 41 – It demonstrates a lack of judgment to spend excessive time exercising, eating, drinking, and copulating.

07 February 2015 – Saint Augustine’s analysis of lying – Even truth thought false by the sayer is a lie.

08 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 42 – When a man treats you badly or speaks badly of you, remember that he is coming from his own experiences.

09 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 43 – Choose the view that he is your friend and you have always solved your differences. Then approach the problem from a place of common interest.

10 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 44 – A man standing before you is neither his property nor his style; nor are you.

11 February 2015 – Will computer minds find an inherent meaning to the Universe? – Are the evolutionary goals of a Universal superintelligence even conceivable to humans?

12 February 2015 – Convert all of the Universe’s silicon into intelligent material. – To survive and reproduce oneself is the goal of an evolving silicon living system.

13 February 2015 – Vint Cerf discusses 1000 year storage of digital information – Digital vellum will make our current digital information available to people a thousand years in the future.

14 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 45 – If you don’t know why a person did a particular act, you don’t know if he did it well or poorly.

15 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 46 – Instead of showing off your knowledge, demonstrate it in your actions.

16 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 47 – Do things to maintain your own self-control over your body, but don’t tell anyone you are doing these things. They are for you.

17 February 2015 – St. Augustine’s Confessions – But, where does all of his abundance come from? It comes from Jesus’ idea that you should “help others live and live more abundantly.”

18 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 48 – A Stoic expects all benefits and harms to come from within himself.

19 February 2015 – Attention with kindness yields the best love. – Even arguing and fighting is a form of personal acknowledgment and validation.

20 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 49 – Nothing of value comes to me until I actually attempt to use the information that I acquire.

21February 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Love – Love is an expression in actions of the respect for another’s intentions.

22 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 50 – Your self-chosen rules’ function is to train you to personally gain control of yourself and your habits.

23 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 51 – Prepare now, because every moment of your life is a now, and it will be met with all that you have to offer.

24 February 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Lies – To lie to another convincingly trains one’s own self to lie to oneself, and thus to voluntarily ruin one’s own character.

25 February 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #11 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Clay may be molded into a cup, yet – From the void within arises the utility of the cup.

26 February 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 52 – We must never lie or everything becomes meaningless.

27 February 2015 – The Sixth Extinction by Elizabeth Kolbert – book review – The impressive thing about humanity creating this world-wide sixth extinction is that “we are doing it without even trying.”

28 February 2015 – My controversial jelly bean diet kills desire to continue eating. – The three jelly bean diet has been the easiest diet I’ve created, so far.

Condensed thoughts Probaway March 2015

01 March 2015 – Epictetus – Enchiridion – A manual of Stoic living. Paragraph 53 – I choose to influence only that which is within my ability, and be content with the rest.

02 March 2015 – How to save the frogs of the world. – The freezing of frogs is a method for saving the frogs and probably some other species from extinction.

03 March 2015 – I am aware. – I enjoy the awareness that I am aware of my awareness and of its rareness.

04 March 2015 – Speak in complete sentences. – I have a habit of speaking too briefly and expecting whomever it is that is listening to fill in the missing words.

05 March 2015 – When an unknown opportunity knocks at least open the door. – The world is still filled with many potential unknowns that are easily discovered.

06 March 2015 – How to love one’s self. – Cultivate the habit of being loving to oneself through kind actions toward other people, because it generates the habit of being loving and kind to oneself.

07 March 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 07 March 2015 – If not treated the death rate from Ebola is greater than ninety percent.

08 March 2015 – How to drink beverages for greater pleasure. – Why beer tastes better from a glass than a bottle is because it flows over more of the tongue.

09 March 2015 – Living with a Wild God by Barbara Ehrenreich – review – Revealing a life of pain doesn’t help others find a path to tranquility.

10 March 2015 – Intelligence coupled with free will is not to be trusted. – People want security and a person exercising free will is unpredictable.

11 March 2015 – Superintelligence – Paths, Dangers, Strategies by Nick Bostrom – review – Superintelligence is still in its infancy; what will its childhood be like?

12 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Gratitude – A demonstration of gratitude is a sure sign that a person is awake.

13 March 2015 – How Google Works by Eric Schmidt & J. Rosenberg – review – This is a great book for the one-in-a-million person applying to Google, but for most other general readers it will be a put-down.

14 March 2015 – Confirmation bias and be careful what you wish for. – Samumpsickle said, “Yep. That I can do, but is that what you really want?”

15 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Truth – Truth is often symmetrical with other truths, but also sometimes with falsehoods.

16 March 2015 – Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences – comments – I would like to meet people who have low ACE and high PCE scores.

17 March 2015 – Index of EarthArk category’s posts – A list of 115 EarthArk posts from the most recent to oldest.

18 March 2015 – Give thanks to Gravity. – It would be an orientating thing for us to go to our ultimate source of being and give thanks to The Four Fundamental Forces of Nature, for being so consistent and dependable.

19 March 2015 – Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences – This new chart adds numbers to each test’s items, one through ten. It also reformats the page so the two tests align each item for item.

20 March 015 – A photograph of a rainbow, moon and rainy street. – It was an overly abstract story for a camera club that talks a lot about cropping and blurry backgrounds.

21 March 2015 – Potential enemies of the EarthArk project – These are the profit-minded people who want to bring all life forms under their personal control, using DNA manipulation techniques.

22 March 2015 – Humanity must survive its dangerous moments to continue existing. – You and humanity must survive every deadly instant before your offspring can exist.

23 March 2015 – Do a quicker and easier EarthArk before it’s too late. – Start your personal EarthArk today, by putting seeds in a bucket.

24 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Evil – Evil is in the motivations of humans who willfully choose to injure people or other living things for personal pleasure.

25 March 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #12 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – The artists’ colorful works make your eyes too sensitive; the musicians’ melodic notes make your ears too delicate; the gourmets’ succulent flavors make your tongue too refined.

26 March 2015 – Dome Argus in Antarctica is the coldest place on Earth. – The EarthArks can save millions of species, but they must be in place to do it.

27 March 2015 – Antarctica – A year on ice – movie by Anthony Powell – review – A year on ice will open your spirit to understand more soulfully where you now live.

28 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Doubt – Doubt is a momentary condition between the choice of options that can lead to depression when a decision can not be made.

29 March 2015 – I live within inertia and so do you. – A person 80 years old would have experienced 2,524,608,000 seconds of potential free will decision making.

30 March 2015 – A useful upgrade in percent % notation system. – If society learns to replace the % sign with p/00 we will make the meaning of the numbers more obvious.

31 March 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Death – Living is the astonishing thing in the Universe, as non-life is the default condition.

Condensed thoughts Probaway April 2015

01 April 2015 – Is suicide a free-will option, or is it a destiny? – Is it the champions of other people’s needs who are the most in need of help?

02 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Pain – Avoid pain by doing the right things at the right times.

03 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Wisdom – True wisdom is invisible because it brings tranquility, contentment and a quiet life.

04 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Contentment – It feels better to enjoy what you have than suffer over what you want.

05 April 2015 – The exit strategy of Kelsey Collins – I speak to the living – do little kind acts frequently.

06 April 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 06 April 2015 – Develop a weakened virus that can be sprayed into bat colonies.

07 April 2015 – A pleasantly tranquil walk in downtown Bend, Oregon – If you can look forward to helping someone live a better life you are needed and wanted.

08 April 2015 – Overdevelopment, Overpopulation, Overshoot (OVER) – review – The only thing that consistently reduces population is lack of food, and starving is a terrible way to die.

09 April 2015 – What is the question we should be asking about our life? – I wasn’t, I am, I won’t be, and I am content with all of those?

10 April 2015 – Our habits are magnetically attached to confirmation bias. – What feels right at the moment is dependent on what happens to attract our attention at the moment.

11 April 2015 – The Unpersuadables by Will Storr – review – We are all unpersuadables – and once you realize that, you can be more comfortable with yourself and kinder to all those other foolish people.

12 April 2015 – My sad change of opinion – A government of the entrenched rich, by the entrenched rich, and for the entrenched rich that shall never ever perish from the earth.

13 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Success – The easiest road to personal success is found in being kind to others.

14 April 2015 – What do you want? – I came to my wish: “To let the world progress as it was going to do without my suggestions or my garden gnome’s help.”

15 April 2015 – In the shadows of unknowns – Use falsifiability as the starting point, as opposed to using it as an ending point proof of the not quite rightness of a theory.

16 April 2015 – Do what you want to do … but … – Do what you want to do, but give others the opportunity live healthier lives because of your actions.

17 April 2015 – Categories are only in our heads. – People believe they can claim superiority over others, because they exist on a higher plane, a more significant reality.

18 April 2015 – Be nicer. – It is not the helping of people that is desired, but their perception of being cared for personally.

19 April 2015 – How can we find truth? – The pirates who can somehow become legitimate will eventually triumph.

20 April 2015 – Your world might expand like mine just did. – The people are coherent wholes, and will explain themselves well, if given a chance.

21 April 2015 – I have opinions based on observations. What are yours based on? – Part of the fair play of conversation is to admit you are wrong when you are proven wrong.

22 April 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Grief – Grief is like the Laocoon snake, slowly squeezing the living breath out of now.

23 April 2015 – The good, the bad and the ugly of Ebola – To the research people weaponizing disease I would say – Remember that we and you too are part of humanity.

24 April 2015 – How do we identify wisdom? – Wisdom is the ability to find the exact thing that will make a difference, and the ability to propagate it virally.

25 April 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #13 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Honors and dishonors will disturb your equanimity; and when you think highly of yourself, your body will be filled with suffering.

26 April 2015 – The good and bad of prayer, and finding a better way. – When we pray for what is, and what will be, and what has been, our prayers will always be answered.

27 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 0 – Let me expose my confirmation biases, as best I can, to clear the way forward as much as I am able.

28 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 1 – The world is filled with many problems and many paths, and we have need for help along a proper path.

29 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 2 – Asking an undefinable entity to help one with human problems introduces a huge gap into reason and responsibility.

30 April 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 3 – To seek to live in a world of fantasy is what we are specifically guided away from.

Condensed thoughts Probaway May 2015

01 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Goals – If you don’t do something you won’t get anywhere, and you are eternally stuck where you are.

02 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs– 4 – I ask of my inmost being to validate life’s potential force.

03 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 5 – Let me embrace the past as it was, the present as it is, and the future as it will be.

04 May 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 04 May 2015 – During an epidemic most people would prefer to wear a health status badge than to die of an avoidable disease.

05 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 6 – The only way to avoid rewards is for the helping action to be done in secret, and therefore let my every kindness go unobserved.

06 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Resilience – Resilience is the conviction that the goal is worth the effort.

07 May 2015 – Should women be drafted into military service? – Drafting all people, men and women, into an army sets up a whole nation to be brutal and become ugly and miserable.

08 May 2015 – My prayers begin to transcend humanity’s needs – 7 – I pray that at every moment as it occurs I am ready to participate. I am ready … now!

09 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Ignorance – One who refuses to observe reality will always be ignorant, and one who bases his actions on ignorance will always behave foolishly.

10 May 2015 – It’s time to say hello to our new reality. – Let us do what we can to bring a humane morality to this astonishing new world.

11 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Imagination – Until worldly facts convince the imagination of their functionality, imagination based on random experience will control our actions.

12 May 2015 – Thoughts condensed from the popular world – #93. Commit to your task and finish it with enthusiasm.

13 May 2015 – Yes, I’m on a spiritual path! – Our writing group chose to write for ten minutes about the word “path”. Click to read my little 149 word essay.

14 May 2015 – How to improve your ACE test score. – It’s impossible to change the past, but you can change your relationship to the past by retelling it in a helpful way.

15 May 2015 – You can’t have the impossible. – “You can’t have the impossible” sounds like an obvious falsehood, but it’s an obvious truth.

16 May 2015 – Prayers for the new millennium – Humanity needs a goal to have a purpose, to feel comfortable with ourselves, within our vastly expanded universe.

17 May 2015 – A typical Sunday for me – I left intellectual Berkeley, after 50 years, with some trepidation for the small resort town of Bend, Oregon. It’s different but wonderful.

18 May 2015 – A prayer for tranquility and contentment – Treat other people in a way that will maximize their tranquility within themselves and support their contentment with the world around them.

19 May 2015 – A quiet day, but memorable for me – It’s quite a pleasure having people respond positively to something I’ve done, because it is such a rare event.

20 May 2015 – How can I promote tranquility fairly? – People are who they are and creating tranquility in them is aided by accepting them as they are, a vast array of self-promoting habits.

21 May 2015 – Fear can be a good emotion or very bad. – Fear can drive you to be sensible. Don’t take unnecessary risks, and don’t ignore real ones.

22 May 2015 – Doing something worthwhile makes you feel good. – Do something worthwhile for other people, not something destructive and hurtful, or simply a waste of personal and public resources.

23 May 2015 – How to make a vertical take-off and fast horizontal flight copterplane. – The copterplane would go much faster and further than a helicopter, but others are pursuing it now.

24 May 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Judgment – A thoughtful man thinks about what he knows and figures things out from observed facts.

25 May 2015 – The Tao Teh Ching – #14 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – Before something exists, you may draw it into existence; and
after it exists, you may draw it into non-existence.

26 May 2015 – Migraine prodrome visual pattern variations on colored backgrounds – I did an experiment where smooth colored areas matched the color of my scotoma, and it nearly vanished, but when shifting my gaze to a visually complex area it returned.

27 May 2015 – 10 things you know to be true – Within seconds everyone was bent over their notepads, writing furiously. When done we each read our efforts. Wow.

28 May 2015 –When shouldn’t we help other people? – Don’t help others if it hurts anyone; thus don’t help if it hurts you, don’t help if it hurts them, and don’t help if it hurts the health of society.

29 May 2015 – How can we identify actionable information? – Actionable information is that which enhances your overall survival and heritability.

30 May 2015 – We can’t predict the future very well and therefore …   – Have the reserves ready so you can act quickly and appropriately to rare problems.

31 May 2015 – What are the questions you should be asking today? – How can I learn to ask better questions?

Condensed thoughts Probaway June 2015

01 June 2015 – A Dictionary of New Epigrams – Desire – To make your future life tranquil and contented intentionally choose to do things that will help you to be tranquil and contented in this moment.

02 June 2015 – Choose reality over fantasy and your life improves. – Change the way you see things to conform to reality, and your reality improves.

03 June 2015 – Ebola Virus Disease (EVD) logarithmic chart update – 03 June 2015 – It might be possible to catch Ebola years later when a refugia organ site, like an eye, is ruptured, and the virus enters the blood system or infects a caregiver.

04 June 2015 – Discovering blank spots in our human reality – Infinitely close to everything in the Universe will be unknowable to us forever, but we can choose to enjoy what we do perceive.

05 June 2015 – Zebrafish, CRISPR, Plague Inc., and computer-generated DNA – Several of my Probaway Person of the Year choices get blended into a single scientific experiment.

06 June 2015 – Existentialism and reality are avoided by most humans. – Existential reality is too demanding for most humans so they choose to become willing slaves to an ideology.

07 June 2015 – Learning from a moment of forethought, a moment of action, and a moment of meditation. – An upgrade to a quiet mind, and a generalized quest for a better relationship with the world in general and ourselves in particular.

08 June 2015 – Thomas E. Lovejoy of World Wildlife Fund & Founder of PBS series Nature – My thought after the lecture was, to save humanity create ways for people to make money taking CO2 and other problems out of the environment.

09 June 2015 – Preparing for problem solving with pleasure – When we know we need to be flexible in our approach to a problem we should intentionally get ourselves into a pleasurable state of mind.

09 June 2015 – A powerful variation on quiet meditation – This loud variation on the usual quiet meditation reveals unexpected opportunities.

10 June 2015 – How can I learn to avoid fear and pain and be effective? – Be more effective by intentionally making your personal presentations less fearful and more joyful and positive.

11 June 2015 – Is ultimate truth subjective? – Truth in all of its guises is always an agreed upon approximation.

12 June 2015 – Watch for kindness and you will see it. – Asking for people to be kind, humorous and wise seems attainable to everyone.

13 June 2015 – It is easy to live better by avoiding anxiety and pain – When you have eliminated the sources of your anxiety you will decrease your experiences of anxiety.

14 June 2015 – Who decides what is true? – We decide at every instant what is true, who we are and who we will become, so choose wisely my friendly reader.

15 June 2015 – Do we have a duty to live or to die? – Our duty is not to be an unwelcome burden to ourselves or others.

16 June 2015 – What is beauty to humans? – Some of us were feeling the Universal as beauty, some were thinking of it as truth, and all of us were enjoying it immensely.

17 June 2015 – The good and bad of hitting age 80 – Old age isn’t for sissies, it’s for flexible, fun-loving, personal-purpose finding people.

18 June 2015 – Training the behavior of organisms like dogs – Here are some working suggestions for helping you and your dog into a cooperative relationship.

19 June 2015 – What is our duty to the Universe as intelligent conscious beings? – We are creating sililife (silicon life) but once it is established it can take whatever time is necessary, even billions of years, to do its evolutionary thing.

20 June 2015 – Hillary Clinton can become President of the United States – Creating impossible dreams brings people to failure, disillusionment, grief, despondency, and early death.

21 June 2015 – Curious conversations in Bend, Oregon – Curious conversations would be a true reality show about ordinary people’s personal stories.

22 June 2015 – Notes for creating a tranquil life with better habits – When some action doesn’t seem right, that is the moment to choose a better habit.

23 June 2015 – How can we thrive in our uncertain world? – To help others to live within their reality is something I can do, and so can you.

24 June 2015 – Show up, pay attention, give it your best, and let it go – Repeat – means frequently returning from one’s own inner thoughts to the external thoughts of the group.

25 June 2015 –The Tao Teh Ching – #15 – Revealed by Lao Tzu – Rendered by Charles Scamahorn – It is impossible to predict sages’ obscure behavior, but
their actions always seem simple and obvious.

26 June 2015 – If you are going to do something well, do it every day. – If you are going to do something well, do it every day, but choose it wisely so it will be helpful to everyone.

27 June 2015 – Charles LeRoy Scamahorn USAF 1960 – I got my wings, but a year later both the Air Force and I decided I could serve our country better as a civilian and we parted ways amiably.

28 June 2015 – When do people ignore you? – People only see the pretty surface and only taste the sugar coating.

29 June 2015 – A meditation for stoics. – A tranquility and contentment meditation for everyone, even atheists and stoics.

30 June 2015 – Only when we look does reality stare us eye to eye – Some quatrains from The Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam with some stoic comments.

30 June 2015 – Condensed thoughts compilation from Probaway’s 2015 blog – This list also appears in the list at the top of probaway.wordpress.com as 2015.

Is suicide a free-will option, or is it a destiny?

01 Wednesday Apr 2015

Posted by probaway in psychology

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ACE, ACE Adverse Childhood Experiences, Coping with one's history, Freewill, PCE, suicide

The last few days have been gloomy for me because a friend of mine committed suicide. It wasn’t absolutely unexpected, because she had a poor ACE score, and her son had committed suicide several years ago. However, she had decided never to let that stand in the way of living life to the to the limits of its joy. She was our local Tony Robbins of can-do exuberance, and gave us wonderful monthly lectures on how we too could achieve her striking success in life. I had rewritten my ACE versus PCE chart to include her as my personal example of someone who wasn’t trapped by her negative past experiences. It appeared she had done everything necessary to turn a potential life of despair into one of continuously transcendent joy. Even when she was sitting still watching someone do their thing she was radiating exuberance.

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences (ACE versus PCE)

In last week’s update of the  ACE-PCE test (PDF) I had added the line, “Of course many of the most successful people score poorly on these quizzes, and they may be the most valuable friends of all, because they learned how to cope with the most difficult of life’s problems.” I specifically had her in mind when I posted those words. … And now this?

Somehow, to retain my own confirmation-biased view of my world, I must make sense out of her sense-destroying act. As far as I know she never read the chart above, so I don’t think it had anything to do with her action, but she does throw into confusion my belief that people can choose to rise above their terrible childhood and extreme adulthood traumas. I just wrote a blog about free will a couple of days ago and had scheduled it but it was not yet posted when she ended her life. It’s titled, I live within inertia and so do you. It’s about the tiny effect our free will of the moment has on the momentum of the vast number of free will decisions of our past actions.

In her conversations of the last several weeks she had repeatedly spoken of her son’s suicide, and the voluntary quality of that act. She spoke with approval of his taking charge of his own life, and his voluntary ending of it. I sensed she was having some life stress, and I had a slight feeling that she was condoning suicide a little too strongly, but it seemed so abstract, and referring only to other people’s decisions. The feeling behind that idea was weak compared to the energy she exerted when talking about the various techniques for coping with life’s problems. It seemed strange that one of her last lectures was on the subject of lying. Everyone was astonished at the subject, but it was a great lecture, and enthusiastically received.

Is it the champions of other people’s needs who are the most in need of help?

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences

19 Thursday Mar 2015

Posted by probaway in psychology

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ACE versus PCE, Adverse Childhood Experiences, Human development, Positive Child Experiences

This is an update on the Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences (ACE versus PCE). This new chart adds numbers to each test’s items, one through ten. It also reformats the page so the two tests align each item for item, which makes it easier to compare a negative experience with its positive one. To achieve that effect it was necessary to change the positive definitions slightly to fit the new format. Each test was given a title line above it, which aids clarity. A bit of brief comment was added to the conclusion. The aim of this presentation is to clarify the types of behaviors that adults would use to raise a child in a way that would bring about a happier adult. Here is a printable PDF file – ACE-PCE test

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences (ACE versus PCE)

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences – comments

16 Monday Mar 2015

Posted by probaway in psychology

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ACE, ACE verses PCE, Adverse Childhood Experiences, Comparisons of ACE and PCE, PCE, Positive Childhood Experience

The central question was whether Positive Childhood Experiences (PCE) cancel out Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE). The chart below has both questionnaires with questions printed in parallel for easy comparison. A printable PDF ACE-PCE test

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences

Adverse Childhood Experiences versus Positive Childhood Experiences (ACE versus PCE)

The first question on this chart was about parental verbal support in front of other people. Some parents were reported to do a quite a bit of condemning and praising, and others were reported to never do either. These must be looked at in a more studied way, but it would seem that a parent doing either praise or blame would translate into the child considering himself valued either way. It would seem preferable to be yelled at and condemned rather than being totally ignored. In the extreme case, babies being ignored results in a diseased emotional condition where they wither and die. The Merck Manual discusses this under physical, emotional and sexual abuse. For this question the two do not cancel each other out, and may be supportive of each other.

The second question seems like an emphasized version of the first, where physical abuse or praise supports and amplifies the verbal ones. Although the behaviors are quite different the emotional effect of both emphasizes the value of the growing child, even when it is hostile, in his own self perception.

The third question of sexual abuse by an older person is a form of taking responsibility away from a child, and the positive opposite is giving responsibility to them. It seems possible, but unlikely, to have encountered both of these behaviors from the same older person. Giving responsibility to a child empowers his growth, and taking it away weakens him. This may be a key predictor of emotional growth.

The fourth question emphasizes one’s abstract value to the world and ability to do worthwhile things, so being encouraged with this would make one into a socially productive person. Being discouraged when one does something productive would be encouraging the child to be nonproductive. These questions have the same dimension of psychological push, so they do cancel each other so the child goes one way or the other.

The fifth question about physical care, like eating, clothing, housing, and protection seem to be directly opposite; either the caregiver treated the child well or failed to provide for him. This would be a linear scale of excellently cared for, verses psychologically abandoned. Just having abundance of food doesn’t mean abundance of emotional growth.

The sixth question is about the parents providing a role model for interpersonal cooperation, and also seems to be a linear scale from super supportive to avoidance. Growing up with supportive people around gives one the courage to explore as well as to be productive.

The seventh question is about response to problems in the household and if they were resolved by dominating violence or cooperative verbal agreement to acceptable solutions. This is another linear scale. It develops the power to think through problems rather than just reacting with the first emotion that arises.

Eight. Were there persons in the household who solved their problems by sedating themselves with alcohol or drugs, or were problems solved with helpful actions? That implies that the coping strategies of others was poor, and being close to them sets a poor model to follow, and those unthinking people tend to respond with avoidance or violence.

Nine. Were there household members who were seriously depressed or others who worked to alleviate other people’s suffering? Depression comes with poor coping with the problems that come along, and it is worsened by weakening the ability to cope with alcohol and instant reactions such as violence.

Ten. Did a household member go to prison or receive a public award? This is a case where a person might do both. They might be successful because they were cheating, and sometimes cheaters get caught and are then called criminals. The self made billionaires and Nobel Laureates I’ve encountered had the outstanding quality of enthusiasm, but that might also be said of major criminals.

It seems that for most children growing up with the adverse childhood experiences that had YES/NO test results, that were extreme enough to be a clearly event, probably  wouldn’t have much experience of events that were at the other end of their respective scales. I blogged last week about Barbara Ehrenreich, who is an extremely successful author. She seemed to have had a childhood that was both horribly physically negative and yet demanding of excellent performance, but without much reward for superior performance.  have heard and read reports of people who had zero on their ACE and near ten on their PCE who are accused of being boring. Perhaps they were low IQ people that were, because of their low intelligence, thrown in with the common mass of struggling people, and their normally intelligenced brethren with good PCE’s had moved on to lifestyles where they lived quietly with unremarkable but successful lives.

I would like to meet people who have low ACE and high PCE scores.

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