Choosing to do a kind act the instant another living being is seen to need assistance has benefits for the actor as well as the recipient. This act is a voluntary act that if left undone wouldn’t be observed as unusual by anyone. The act while being done and observed by another person might be thought of as a totally normal thing to do. And it is normal, and it is easily done. It is the motivation to help another being with a developing problem that is unusual because it requires the actor to move their perception from their personal self and its problems over into the mind space of the other being.
Seeing things as if one’s ego was existing in another’s mind is possible if there is a clear problem confronting that other person’s situation. Usually, there are not enough external indicators of what another person is thinking about to project one’s thoughts into that place.
The Good Samaritan’s voluntary actions helping a person who was robbed is an example of spontaneous kindness. The Boy Scout helping the old lady carry some packages across a street is another standard image of kindness. Each of these examples is an act in a specific moment in time, and it involves a clear physical situation requiring assistance.
Sometimes, a social situation that is wholly a mental problem can be aided by an appropriate word. It’s called a kind word. It is a beautiful thing when done appropriately. But it is a tricky situation because words and physical expressions may not be conveying a whole story, like the Good Samaritan and the Boy Scouts do.
Doing one’s duty in our social situations is not kindness. If we are being paid a wage to do some tasks for other people, it isn’t a kindness to do the job promptly and well. If we are doing some things that we usually do as a personal routine, it isn’t kindness in a personal sense because we were going to do the task anyway. Kindness is situational.
A kindness is an appropriate spontaneous voluntary act that helps another person along their life path.