Which of the currently # numbered 28 life orientations for achieving unlimited hope is the right one? Quite obviously none of them, because they all have flaws, often tragic flaws, along with their promise of a hopefully positive outcome. The unbounded hope chart #28 greedy individual was based on a personally selfish approach to life, and #27 was based on expanding the self to everything over which the individual has even a tiny influence. The unbounded hope #27 of a kind person is expanding his propinquity of self-identification as far as he can stretch it. But he also hopes to stay within the limits of the possible, even at the very extremities of his boundaries of caring kindness. His hope includes consistently achieving success within the personally close realms of his close-in propinquity.
The problem for all of us, even the most selfish of us, is that often we do things that are helpful to others. The problem compounds because acts of kindness rebound to the actor and to others around all of those affected. This applies to unkind actions as well. But the costly problem is that both kind and unkind actions have a personal cost in time, energy, and the stored public energy that is money. Everything we do consumes our resources.
What counts most for generating positive outcomes is the aspect of the wisdom of their experience that every individual brings to a new situation, and every situation is a new one. The wisdom must be quick and functional. Unfortunately, thinking over what is the best thing to do takes time, and usually, that isn’t available. What is available for almost instantaneous action is learned habits of behavior, and that includes verbal behavior. Thus, it is crucial that a person who wishes to have available unbounded hope must be willing, ready and able to be instantly kind as a routine habit. The only way to acquire that is to practice it as much as possible, and especially to practice it in the most difficult circumstances.
The way to gain unbounded hope is to watch carefully for opportunities to see what another person needs and provide it to them reflexively.