Every person is unique. They have been given unique DNA, uterine environment, birth experience, first month, infancy, childhood, adulthood, maturity, and sagehood. Each of these is modified by the environment they found themselves immersed within. Their physical situation influences everything they were given and their social situation influences everything too. Potentially the most variable things that can influence the person are their own multiple habitual relationships with the many aspects of their personal selves. There are probably many other influences which we never considered, such as the recent discovery, interest, and popularity of the personal internal microbiome. At the present, we don’t know how important that will become, but it may be big.
With so many personal variables that form each individual, it is reasonable that every one of us should have our personal guiding principle – our personal Golden Rule, a basic principle that should be followed to ensure success in general or in a particular activity.
Last year I blogged – How many Golden Rules are there? Many but there’s one really good one. That post was encouraging people to follow the Golden Rule as stated in the King James Version of the Bible. That post mentions Wikipedia’s link to The Golden Rule where there are about fifty Golden Rules mentioned, and which itself has many links to analysis of the variations. With this blog, I am exploring your option for creating a personal Golden Rule, based on your typical daily level of maturity. And then offering some suggestions on how to further personalize your Golden Rule to help you live a long and fulfilling life.
There is a guiding principle underlying my method for creating your personal Golden Rule, and that is — when you are feeling emotionally alert, exuberant, healthy, and with a clear vision of current facts, use that time to intentionally search through your options for what thoughts and behaviors you could pursue. After an appropriate period of time spent analyzing the situation, choose the behavior that seems to be the most mature.
For example, if you have the opportunity to go skiing, rather than paying to ski down hills for fun, risking personal injury, instead volunteer for the ski patrol and do search and rescue of other skiers in trouble. If your natural emotional condition is adolescent, that is, trying to find one’s self in your society, choosing to have physical fun is childish and a step down because with that motivation it would be a childish behavior for you. However, if you choose to use the same time and skills on the ski patrol that would be an adult behavior because it is socially productive, and might be thought of as work.
It is childish to seek physical pleasure, adolescent to seek personal aggrandizement in your social group, adult to somehow be productive for yourself and associates.
The end value of choosing more mature activities at any stage of life is that you and your friends live longer more fulfilling lives.