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Our Tuesday discussion group got into happiness part of the time, as a sub-subject of the general subject of human development. Everyone was “high as a kite,” as they used to say, on our emotional forays into each person’s unique revelations of problems they had had and how they coped with them; or in most cases didn’t cope very well at the time, and spent years, even decades, trying to come to a comfortable resolution with their personal tragedies. Some highlights for me …

Someone said they adored their parents when they were young, even though when looking back from their perspective as an older adult, they observed that their parents had treated them poorly, and their close relatives had treated them horribly. Also, their parents didn’t believe their childish stories of abuse, and therefore didn’t do anything to prevent further occurrences from happening. I didn’t respond verbally to these stories, because I didn’t have any, or very little, experiences of anything that could be called abuse. But clearly, looking around the large circle of friends I could see nodding signs of agreement and compassionate understanding.

My desire for this group is to explore maturity, and to seek the paths to various forms of sage-hood that would be appropriate to each specific individual; the potential is certainly there with several of the attendees, and I am doing what seems appropriate to open the doors to their various callings. The ones who seem most likely to move forward, if given the right opportunities, are those who had excellent childhoods, but some horrific adult experiences which they are still trying to integrate into a meaningful world view.

Unfortunately, most of the two hours was devoted to people talking about coping with what on my happiness scale are very low physical experiences. Some at the very bottom … physical survival, or not much better, reveling at rebelling from constraints.

My offerings were a slight improvement on something we have previously discussed … show up, pay attention, give it your best, let it go, to which I wanted to add choose to walk away. That addition is important because when we stay in the environment where we have given a contribution we become attached to what others do with our contribution, and walking away gives our idea its wings to freedom, freedom to grow and find new uses from the ones that motivated our idea. So …

Give it your best, let it go, and intentionally walk away.