A Dictionary of New Epigrams
Forgiving oneself for even a tiny indiscretion is impossible, because it doesn’t come from the victim.
It is impossible to forgive ourselves because you can not give something you do not have to give.
An honest man can not forgive himself, and must forevermore live with the various forms of pain from his actions.
A dishonest man can behave as a psychopath, and forgive the most hideous of crimes against individuals and even all humanity, but in his core he is still guilty.
The goal is to achieve a personal development to where no one would ever even consider the need to forgive their actions, because their every action is so obviously necessary.
We can forgive another person who has injured us, because it is within our power to forgive their action, as we have empathy for their need at the moment they injured us.
To forgive an injury doesn’t imply that we will permit it to occur again.
To proceed to give our best when coping with new problems requires that we not carry any resentment or fear of a previous injury. We have forgiven.
If you do not forgive the injury that person remains an enemy forever, and an enemy is the most dangerous thing in the world.
When we forgive others we learn the techniques and habits of forgiveness, and when these are internalized we can even forgive ourselves.
Think for a while about your grievances, and when they are clearly in mind make a conscious decision to forgive the other. Forgive in clear and precise words each and every nuance of the wrong they have done you.
Some people, and whole cultures, refuse to forgive, and promote such slogans as “Never forget … X!” but by cultivating these suspicions and hatreds they perpetuate an evil that will live forever.
It is easier to forgive a declared enemy who was fighting you for a specific reason than to forgive a friend who betrayed you for some superficial benefit.
Forgiveness eliminates the pain of anger and the misery of hatred.
Finding a common purpose will benefit both parties, and sometimes that requires a mutual forgiveness.
Forgive even the tiniest infraction on your rights. It cultivates the ability to forgive more substantial violations of your rights, most of which come from within.
To learn how to forgive one must first accept the person for who they are and pull back the curtains obscuring where they want to go, if they could only see.
If you are going to reward or punish a dog you must do it within a second, and so to must you forgive a human instantly. Living memory is very brief.
A person filled with painful emotions like fear, anger, and resentment doesn’t have the personal reserves to afford forgiveness.
To fully understand a person means you would never have to forgive them for any of their actions.
When you seek happiness give kindness to others, and when you seek peace give them forgiveness.