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I’ve joked before how people sometimes tune me out of their conversations, and no doubt others have this problem too. Often this happens in group discussions, and I have explored various reasons for the precursors to this phenomenon. Most people who do talk with me say, although they may be lying, that they enjoy what I have to say because I bring an obviously thought-about observation to the conversation.

It is because I write these blogs that I have thought about some subjects more deeply, than in conversation, because when writing I have had the time to discover the underlying precursors to problems. I try to see more than a solution to an obvious problem, by trying to see and to remove the cause of the problem. Unfortunately that seems like a distraction to most people, because the cause has already passed and we need to address the existing problem. Of course unless the underlying cause is removed the problem will arise again, but most people seem unable to go there, and prefer to live in a world of coping with crises as they become flagrantly obvious.

So, why do people tune out in a conversation, and what are the visible precursors to their tuning out? Probably most of the time people tune out when the subject matter loses contact with their personal conception of reality, and whatever is then being discussed becomes irrelevant. Whatever is not understood on a personal level becomes something to be ignored and argued against. The instant that situation develops whatever comes after, will be discounted and countered, even when it is in agreement with the interlocutor.

So it becomes necessary to always make everything absolutely clear in the most easily understood way by the most ignorant person present. Abstractions are not easily understood and therefore must be avoided. Negative ideas, no matter how relevant they are to the problem at hand, are instantly rejected by many people, and possibly by everyone. Therefore to be successful an idea must be presented in a positive way that covers over any negative aspects of the problem, and it has no relationship to whether it actually solves the underlying problem. Therefore, never talk about a problem but only about a beautiful world to come and a positive way of getting there.

People only see the pretty surface and only taste the sugar coating.