People are always confronted with some problem, and most of our problems are easily solved by our automatic brain processes that predict the future by consulting our past experiences and the habits that arose because of them. That procedure works well for our mundane daily problems, but that method has little relevance when encountering completely new or unusual problems. When we encounter unique problems we must think in a different way, and that is difficult even for humans.
It’s always hard to predict things, but that is what our brain has evolved to do, and does with things it has some previous experience with. Of course, there are unusual factors that sometimes don’t fit in with previous brain procedures and we are forced to do something different, that is to think. A problem arises when there is a current pain involved, or threat of pain, because then the brain locks onto a fight-flight or freeze mode. In those situations it stops thinking and just reacts with its lizard-brain responses. That method will only be the best option for reptilian-style life-threatening problems; but when a human is about to face a difficult new situation it is helpful to intentionally get into a positive physical and mental state before committing to the encounter, because the mind can think far more flexibly when it is joyful.
For example, for most people speaking before a group is very stressful, and they avoid it, because they fear criticism, and they become afraid to speak up. In this situation being in a fearful state will be counterproductive, because it will prevent them from thinking clearly, and they will appear to be a low-grade moron and foolish, and in that mental state the problem compounds itself and their fear becomes self-fulfilling anxiety. Therefore, before speaking to a group or asking a question of a speaker, mentally get into a good mood, because a flexible state of mind is more functional than a fearful or combative one. Once you have in mind what you are going to say, smile, laugh and joke with yourself before standing up before a crowd, because those preparations will put you into a state of mind for thinking on the spot rather than freezing up. People appreciate cheerful, positive statements and dislike fearful, negative ones, because people mirror the emotions of those they are attending to, and they don’t want to feel fear. Therefore, manifest emotions that people want to feel and they will pay attention to you.
Be more effective by intentionally making your personal presentation less fearful and more joyful and positive.